Not any fun any more...

I find it interesting the questions I've been getting lately have been reverted to just one. As if this question is the all encompassing symbol of my life.

How's married life?

It's almost as if anything I've ever done in my life is now null and void. It has now become the most interesting thing about me. Being married. It's almost like me being married is the only thing I think about so that's the only thing people ask me about.

Don't get me wrong. I love being married. It's the FIRST thing I think about when I'm asked what has God blessed me with in my life. Flash and MF (Mini Flash I had forgotten I had given him that nickname. Shows how long I haven't blogged). They certainly are a big part of my life now. But it's not the only thing I think about.

The three of us went camping with some friends. Katie has been my friend for years; a single mother of one daughter named Samantha had gotten married the day after I returned from my mission in California. Samantha and I have always been good friends. She was six when I first met her and now 11. During the course of the weekend this is the conversation we had:


Sam: I don't know what I'm going to do when you have a baby.
Me: What do you mean?
Sam: Well when you have a baby you're going to be even less fun than you already are!
Me: What?!?!
Sam: Well when you first came home you were no fun cause of school. Now you're married you're even less fun. When you have a baby it's just going to keep being no fun!

I got her back though. I told her she's been snappy and sulky all weekend and she's been no fun since she turned 11 (I know, so mature).

Is that what I've been reduced to? No fun?

Of course I have to keep in mind that she's 11. Nearly a teenager and never happy with anything. So I'm taking it with a grain of salt but it kind of reaffirmed what I already expected. People only see the married part of me. Before they find out I'm married we have a strong engaging conversation where we ask all sorts of questions of each other. But as soon as they find out I'm married it's all we can talk about.

It's two fold. One: am I not showing people there's more to me? Two: are people not creative? They can't think of anything else to ask?

My closest friends don't ask me this. So it could be more of a level of friendship sort of thing. But I find myself asking the same thing of other people who just got married.

One of my friends put it perfectly when I asked him that question, "What am I going to say? It's horrible?" I think he was getting as fed up with it then as I am now. Of course I'm not so much fed up with it as I find it amusing.